One Man Who Changed the World
by Anna Carpuso
I took a deep
breath. Our drive had finally come to an end, but it was clear that our true
adventure had just begun.
“We’re here!!! We’re actually here!” I screamed, shaking my clenched
fists in excitement. I had waited for this moment for months and had no idea
that it would be even more thrilling than I anticipated. Next to me Traci sat
on the worn, fake sheepskin seat of our 1968 Volkswagen bus. She shared my
enthusiasm.
“Holy shit!” she murmured in a shocked, faint voice.
The night air was comfortably warm and dry; it had cooled off
tremendously the last few hours in the car. Thoughts raced through my mind. I
replayed the recent journey to our newfound home – Black Rock City, Nevada:
Burning Man.
My summer nights often consisted of daydreaming with Traci. We
continuously made checklists as we tore apart our houses in search of anything
and everything we could possibly find useful for Burning Man. We repeated the
list of essentials incessantly – drums, guitars, paints, glow-sticks, obscure
tapes, goggles, and our playa attire. Food wasn’t as important in my mind;
who cares what we eat at Burning Man? Whenever we saw each other or talked on
the phone, we embellished our list further, adding more details. The pile of
clothes and musical instruments grew to a huge mound on my bedroom floor.
Burning Man had been in the back of my mind for months, but now it had
consumed my life. I often stopped in the middle of a conversation and
blurted, “Oh my god, I can’t wait until Burning Man!” It was clear that my
family and friends were getting tired of the constant interruptions, as my
rants became more and more frequent.
I’m not sure of the exact force that drove me to declare, “I’m going to
Burning Man this year. No matter what.” My parents clearly sensed my
determination, and realized I was not about to back down. There was no
question or doubt in my mind. I had been curious about the event for years,
and I had suspicions about the common explanation that “its just a bunch of
old-naked-hippies-on-drugs in the desert.” Whatever the result, I was
completely willing to jump into the adventure whole-heartedly with no regrets.
But deep down, I really hoped Burning Man would a meaningful experience.
Given that I was settled on the plan, with no driver’s license, I had to find
a partner in crime. I thought over my short list of possibilities and settled
on Traci.
We had only known each other casually, for about a year, but I was
convinced that she would be a perfect companion for the adventure. We often
considered ourselves seven year-old twin brothers because we were both
excessively energetic and spontaneous. One night, I made the call and was
prepared to make a big pitch to persuade her to come.
“Uh… hi Traci. I’m going to Burning Man I was wondering if you want to
come. Do you know what Burning Man -”
Traci interrupted, “Wait… you’re going to Burning Man?” she said
enthusiastically. “That’s so cool! Hold on, let me ask,” I expected it to
take her a while to convince her parents, but before the thoughts could
circulate through my mind Traci picked up the phone and said casually, “Yeah,
I can go.” Nothing had to be explained.
So it was set. I couldn’t believe everything went so smoothly. My
dad was coming along on the adventure too, not as a chaperone, but a companion
(who also happened to have a driver’s license). He planned art projects and
spent days repairing our vintage van that had been buried in our garage my
whole life. I read the Burning Man website devotedly and repeated my research
to Traci, while she did the same for me. Our studies were more thorough and
thoughtful than any of our schoolwork had ever been.
“I read that you should go with someone you really like,” Traci
warned, “because by the end, you’re either gonna hate the person, or have a
special connection with them. I hope we don’t end up hating each other.”
Finally, the day arrived. The ride over the Sierras felt like a new
drive despite the fact that I had traveled those same roads dozens of times.
The journey, like all of Burning Man, was about the process and the
experience. Daily annoyances became pleasurable. Our bus putted across the
freeway at an ancient 25 miles per hour. Some cars screeched past us in an
angry rage, while others, clearly headed for Burning Man, stuck their hands
out the window and formed a friendly peace symbol. It was late into the night
and the road was open. School had started, but it felt like summer would
never end. I had absolutely no worries and felt invincible from the usual
restrictions that seemed a lifetime away. We were in no hurry; the drive was
relaxed. With no air conditioning in 105 degree weather, no automatic
windows, or even enough seats for the three of us, our expedition was off to a
great start. My butt felt numb, as I sat between my dad and Traci on a wooden
box, which substituted a proper seat. I shoved my head out the window to
relieve myself from the heat. This can’t be real, I thought to myself as I
looked up at the sky. It was darker than I had ever witnessed and millions of
stars were visible. The full, golden moon peeked above the horizon, straight
ahead.
Before long Reno went by in a blur of flashing lights and cheap
colors. We agreed as a group to listen exclusively to our favorite psychedelic
music, to enhance our sense of freedom and rebellion. We stuck to the
agreement and sang for hours until our voices became horse and eventually
faded away. At last, somewhere in Nevada, we exited the freeway. Hendrix
drowned my apprehension as we drove through the mysterious, repetitive desert.
The clock read 1:30 AM, three hours later than our estimated arrival and we
still had 75 long miles to go.
“It’s all part of the experience,” I repeated reassuringly every time
anyone complained about the drive. The barren miles passed slowly. The only
passing cars were decorated, or stuffed to the top with unusual gear, and
equipped with bikes.
After endless miles of desert darkness, I couldn’t determine if the
bright lights ahead were a refinery, city, or my eyes playing tricks on me.
“Whoa, did you see that? There’re giant fire explosions over there,” I said
pointing to the right of the road, far off into the vast desert emptiness.
“What the hell is that? It looks like a city or something,” my dad
replied, squinting to make sense of the situation.
The three of us pondered the mystical illumination and decided the sporadic
flames and flashing lights were too magical to be a factory. Yes, it could
only be Burning Man.
It had been twelve extensively long, yet pleasurable hours spent in
our beloved van. I always thought that the desert would be a frighteningly
lonely place. But to my delight, it seemed to be the exact opposite; I felt
more welcome driving on the dirt road than anywhere I had ever been. “You’re
Finally Home,” read a large sign to the side of the road. The statement was
true; we hadn’t even passed through the twelve-mile entrance yet, but I was
absolutely convinced that I was home. It was four thirty in the morning, but
from the aura of light and occasional flames shot high into the sky, I could
tell we were not about to go to sleep.
At last the three of us hopped out of the car, grabbed our decorated
bikes, a handful glow sticks, and headed out on the playa. Even the smallest,
most ordinary occurrences seemed novel. I was mesmerized by the desert floor.
It was a pale tan color, broken into jagged segments by endless cracks that
resembled a maze. My bare feet glided smoothly across the cool surface, while
dust assembled into a cloud and clung to my legs. We were fanatically
attracted to a flashing geodesic dome, which constantly altered color,
occasionally interrupted by the flash of a blinding strobe light. The dome
looked small compared to the endless, perfectly flat desert floor. We began to
pedal toward it like moths flocking to a light bulb. Music filled my ears
from every direction. People strolled along casually in their fluorescent
furry outfits, despite the fact that it was five in the morning. I was awed
by this freedom and was immediately in love with it.
Traci and I were overwhelmed as we attempted to assimilate the life
that surrounded us. We looked at one person wearing nothing but glow sticks,
got distracted by a car shooting fire, and then interrupted as we nearly
crashed into a random door standing alone in the middle of the desert. The
next thing I knew, we had reached the colored dome. We rode only about a
mile, but this first bike ride alone was worth the cost of the ticket. My eyes
were in constant motion. There was too much to take in. Traci and I dropped
our bikes and ran toward the dome while my dad followed quickly behind. Our
spastic leaps halted abruptly as we gazed inside.
“This is incredible,” Traci sputtered loudly over the pounding bass.
“Whoa,” I mumbled, astonished. We were still unable to converse
fluently. Everyone pulsed naturally along with the electronic tones as the
glittering lights changed. The age of the crowd took me by surprise. They
seemed like high school students at a rave, but their faces showed that they
were past their youth. Regardless, they looked happy, and I did not feel
uncomfortable or out of place. The dancers were equipped with sequins, fur,
feathers, and some wore nothing at all. They packed the room, and hung off of
platforms and poles. Traci and I danced and then decided we should move on to
see what else the amazing city had to offer.
After a long night full of adventure, a deadly heat awoke us. It was
only eight AM, but it was obvious that sleeping more was not an option. I was
exhausted, and hoped that I would not feel irritable and withdrawn, as I
always did from lack of sleep. The sky was a perfect clear, pale blue, as
only the desert can offer. I felt claustrophobic in my sweaty sleeping bag.
“I had a dream about Burning Man,” I told Traci.
“You don’t need to dream anymore, we’re here,” she replied.
We got up slowly and headed out into the sun. My dad was already
participating in his new favorite activity – “chilling”. He lay in a
reclining chair while playing guitar under a bright orange tarp. He fit in
perfectly, with his handmade tie-dye shirt, sequined vest and top hat. Our
neighbors participated in morning activities of their own. One heedlessly
swept the entry area to her RV in a blue tutu and hiking boots. To the other
side of our camp, a man with dreadlocks painted his bike in his tighty-whities
due to the squelching heat. On our morning bike ride to the port-a-potties,
Traci and I didn’t think twice when we saw dozens of Barbie dolls poking out
of the ground, two people perched on a flowered living room couch on wheels
that drove past us, and three old men with identical gray, bushy beards
drinking coffee waved at us nonchalantly.
As we headed back to camp, I realized that this was the first time I
had ever been free of all rules and restrictions. I became aware of how much
my old life was shaped by other people. Teachers, parents, friends, and
society directed me toward a conventional lifestyle. But now I was in
control. For once there were no deadlines to worry about. There was no
“right” way to live. The traditions of time vanished. It didn’t matter when
we went to bed or woke up, ate meals, or walked around. Everyone did what he
or she wanted to, all the time. I found myself asking whether I felt like
going to sleep at one in the afternoon, or eight in the morning, or if I even
wanted to sleep at all.
The following days passed much too quickly. Each morning, Traci and I
set out on a spontaneous expedition. Our original destination was always
deferred, as we were invited to dance, eat, drink, jam, and hang out with a
multitude of fellow burners. Unlike many situations elsewhere, I never felt
shy, intimidated, or fearful around the friendly strangers. We were undaunted.
One night we hopped on a fire truck. It was packed with younger burners who
sat on every surface including the forty-foot extension ladder which rose high
into the midnight sky. It was a functional fire truck adorned with rope lights
and at least forty colorful burners. It drove slowly across the desert.
After a few minutes of enjoying our ride, a man who seemed to be in charge
approached us.
“Are you guys in this camp?” the overbearing man in a floor length fur
robe asked.
“Uh… no. But we just… is it ok… should we get off?” I asked, trying
to think of an explanation for intruding on their vehicle.
“No way!” he said dismissively with the wave of a hand, “We just
wanted to make sure you feel welcome. Let us know if we can do anything… I’m
Sun Wolf,” the man explained as he shook our hands. By four-thirty, the
strangers were our close friends and we were part of their camp. Exhausted
and content, it was time to go back to our van.
We jumped off the fire truck and began the trek back to our bikes. The
astronaut style freeze-dried corn and fajitas we consumed hours ago had left
my stomach rumbling and we decided to find food. Our bikes were parked in
front of Center Camp; a circular covered structure, almost half the size of a
football field. Afro-rhythms and bright sounding horns streamed out of the
area and beckoned us to join in.
“That sounds cool. Let’s check it out,” Traci said, as I began to
walk toward the music. This is how I imagined devoutly religious people must
feel upon entering their sacred sanctuary. I felt relaxed, at peace, and
comfortable. In one area, a stage was surrounded by at least a hundred
spectators. The couches lined up like bleachers were packed, while overflow
people danced in the isles. In the middle of the building, people slept,
played hackie sack, walked on a tightrope and juggled. Just as Traci and I
sat on the dusty carpet, a girl approached us.
“Do you want one?” she said, innocently offering a tin full of mints
to us. “They’re not drugs, I swear,” she cackled. We gratefully took a mint
and she continued around the circle, sharing with everyone else. Soon she
returned.
“Hi!! I’m Sarah, what’s your name? You guys look so young!” she said,
sitting cross-legged before us. She had two blonde braids tied on top of her
head. Her eyes glittered, and her enthusiasm instantly diminished our hunger
and sleepiness. As our conversation progressed I learned that she was a UC
Davis student. She introduced us to her boyfriend.
“Aaron, these are my new friends, Anna and Traci. They’re really
cool, they go to Berkeley High.” Without giving him time to react, she
continued, “Is this your first time?” we managed to fit in a nod between
questions. “It’s my first time too… It’s the most amazing place!” We all
agreed we hoped we’d meet up again soon. Sarah grabbed Aaron’s hand lovingly
and walked back to the others.
Traci and I lay on the grimy carpet and looked around. Sarah and
Aaron played along with the others, fully enjoying hula-hoops, a tightrope,
and dances choreographed on the spot with throw pillows. I had never met any
of these people, but they seemed like family. It felt like I was out of my
body, watching my life take place. If an outsider had observed us, they would
be certain that we were on some serious psychedelic drugs. However, the truth
was that the experience of Burning Man had the same effects as a drug. We
were completely sober and life seemed surreal. It was perfect. I was
invincible. After two and a half hours of simply sitting meditatively, Traci
and I decided to go back to the car as the night air became too cold. We stood
up reluctantly, remaining silent for a few seconds. The sky had lightened as
the sun glimpsed from behind the mountains. I hadn’t slept more than eight
hours in the past three days combined. Usually I would be incoherent,
grouchy, and unable to function from lack of sleep. But I felt rejuvenated.
Never before had I felt more clear-headed.
“I can’t believe what happened in there. That was the most amazing
experience in my life,” I told Traci, who nodded, mesmerized, in agreement.
“It was spiritual.” From that moment on, everything changed. I was no
longer attracted to the flashy rave dome. I had no tolerance for disguising
myself to be accepted and understood. My outlook on the world was
transformed.
As we left the area, we shivered due to the chilly night air. A
shirtless man in his twenties walked to his bike and saw our quivers. Without
saying a word, he took off his arm warmers and handed them to Traci. He untied
his boots to give me his wool socks. I felt selfish wearing my furry vest,
and refused his offer. This was the kindest, most genuine gesture I ever
witnessed.
“Are you sure you guys are gonna be ok? You look freezing,” he said
with complete sincerity.
“Yeah, its ok. Thank you,” I replied, truly grateful and warmed by
his generosity. A complete stranger was willing to give away his own clothing
and take on the cold just because we were unprepared for the weather. He
didn’t expect or suggest anything in return. I realized that I wanted to
change. I recalled Traci’s mom advising us to be careful and not take
anything we cared about to Burning Man because we might end up giving it away.
At the time, we laughed off the seemingly absurd comment that we thought
could never apply to us. Now I wanted to give everything away. It was so much
more satisfying to share life, experiences, and objects with fellow burners.
People who appreciated and understood sharing as more than simple acts of
kindness.
Traci and I rested on our sleeping bags in the back of the car.
Tomorrow was the long journey home. Reentry was going to be difficult. I
had been transform at Burning Man. I was happier that ever before, yet
devastated at the thought of returning to the every day routines of my old
life.
“I’m never going to be able to talk to anyone outside of Burning Man,”
I said to Traci, concerned.
“Don’t worry, we’re gonna have each other.”
“School’s gonna be unbearable; you’re the only one who will
understand.”
All of my predictions of Burning Man were true. It wasn’t just a
normal, camping trip or concert that was a worthwhile experience. It was
spiritual, it opened minds, it changed perspectives, it was a community, it
was epic. I had never understood the power behind those words. But I had
been immersed and appreciated their true meaning. The changes I went through
are now a permanent part of me and affect everything I do. We all want to
feel engaged, challenged, creative, and part of a group that suits our
passions and abilities. For the first time ever, I had felt that way and
found such a place: Burning Man.